The clock is ticking until the New Year and people are taking out their pens and pencils to write down their new year resolutions. There’s always excitement when it comes to the new year. A strong belief that this time things will be different.

I used to believe in resolutions more than anyone, at eighteen I would write down all my resolutions. Boy, was I on the bandwagon and then I was hit with the profound realization that resolutions don’t work. Wait, what? “You mean, I have been wasting time writing down my resolutions that don’t come to pass.”

It might sound hard to believe, but when you think about it, did any of your new year resolutions come true this year. Sure, you can blame it on shoddy planning or not being determined. I’m not saying that everyone who writes down their resolutions is wasting their time. For some people it works, but for the majority it does not.

We all do that, but the truth is even if we do everything right. Plan everything to a T and write down goals that we’re sure we will accomplish, resolutions still don’t work most of the time. Twelve months are enough for us to achieve what we want, but that is also were the problem is.

Two years ago, I wrote down my new year resolutions and I barely finished any of them. I came to understand my goals were not the problem. And I wasn’t the only one who didn’t achieve my resolutions. Most of us end the year having not completed our new years resolutions. What we know about new years resolutions is wrong?

Waiting for New Years Doesn’t work

As the year comes to a close, many of us, will wait for New Years to start on our goals. This never works because as the New Year begins, we will be running around to accomplish certain things. The first month goes like a blur, here one moment and gone the next. We still have eleven months to accomplish something, but from my experience it doesn’t work like this.

The number one resolution people make is to lose weight, but the months go past and your gym membership expires only for you to make the same resolution the next year.

The way you finish this year will be how you finish next year unless you decide you will work on your resolutions.

I know we want to enjoy the few days left or reflect on the past mistakes. However, not a lot of people do that. Instead, we go to parties, soaking in the last days of the year until the next year. And we always give the excuse that next year, I will be a better person or I will do better.

The next year comes and we forget the resolutions we made. Go on with life and forget the promise we made. When it comes to New Year resolutions, we fail at it because we start to late working on how goals. Do you remember how exhausted you are when running up a hill. how difficult it is to maintain the momentum. However, if you build up the momentum it is a lot easier and the same can be said for new year resolutions. If you build up momentum by working on your goals towards the end of the year, you have enough momentum to carry it onto the next year.

Start with Now 

The problem with society as a whole, we have become so used to starting later instead of now. We push things back and it doesn’t matter what it is. We don’t know how to use this moment to create a lasting change. All we truly need is a few hours a day to make next year great.

This year was one of the worst years I have had in a while. A lot of my resolutions came through, but the problem is I had spent so much of my time waiting for a day to work on my goals that things fell a part. I was almost homeless, my phone crashed, I was broke and my laptop stopped working. I was living with a woman who was the definition of damaged so life wasn’t as great as I hoped.

I came to realize I was waiting for things to be right, but that never happened. When I was right on the edge I had to push myself back and I came to realize that life will never be the way we want it to be. Even when things come through, all it takes is one thing to make life harder.

No matter what goal you have start now, if you do that, by the new year it won’t be a resolution, but a goal. Keeping that in place you are likely to achieve it. Too many of us wait for the new year to come so we can plan our lives, but that never works out. We need to focus on the time we have to build the life we want and only then can we live the life we always dreamed about. 

Have a Goal every 100 Days

Twelve months goals are too lofty, not clear enough for you to achieve. Writing down I will lose weight in twelve months might seem as if you can achieve it, but you won’t. Every month you will keep telling yourself you have time and that won’t motivate you.

But if you have at least two to three goals every 100 days, you will push yourself. The limited time space will keep you on your feet and you will achieve your goals faster. This works better than you can imagine. I have seen first hand how this works. If you are determined to accomplish your goals, one of your new year resolutions should be to try accomplishing your goals after every 100 days. 

This is by the far the best way to accomplish your goals and it should definitely be on your New Year resolutions. Accomplishing your goals is never easy and it’s a lot easier if you break down the year. Most people fail their new year goals because they aren’t being strategic enough. Breaking down your goals into 90 or 100 days is a far more achievable and it motivates you to actually accomplish your goals.

Also Read: How to Achieve Goals in 100 days or less?

You are not a Failure

New Year Resolutions are constructed in a way that makes it easy to fail. So, if you didn’t accomplish your goals, you’re not the problem it’s the resolutions. We all want the New Year to be better, but here’s the thing that is putting too much pressure on the year and not on yourself.

They can only be one victor, it’s either the year comes ahead or you. Often it’s the year. Put pressure on yourself and you will be surprised with the results. Start with now rather than later and avoid resolutions at all costs. If you want to be a better person, don’t start on the 1st of January, do it now, at this very moment.

I developed the mentality of thinking I was a failure because I failed at resolutions. People don’t like talking about it, but everyone fails at resolutions. Successful people don’t talk about their resolutions. They don’t work and they are not supposed to.

Start the new year with a great perceptive. Focus on accomplishing your goals and not worrying whether or not you are following through with your resolutions.

Also Read: Insider’s Guide to Beating Failure and Becoming More Confident

What goals are you planning on accomplishing in the next 100 days? Comment below.

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