THE REALITY ABOUT FINDING YOUR CALLING AND HOW TO FIND IT
would be living out our purpose. Nope, if you are like most people you did the normal thing. Graduated from high school, went to college and decided not to
dropout to pursue your own thing.
You graduated from college, your parents were proud, but there was this hollowness in you. You couldn’t explain, four years working on your degree and it
all came to this. Your moment, yet there’s something missing. All your friends told you their brilliant plans about what they were going to do after graduation,
the jobs lined up and then there’s you. Still confused on what you are going to do just like what you experienced when you first came to college.
If you didn’t experience this, that’s alright, but if you did then you aren’t alone on this journey called life. I experienced this. I was happy about graduating, but
there was something missing. I didn’t know what it was. I didn’t feel as excited to graduate compared to my friends who were filled with all these
ideas of what they wanted to do.
I had no clue. Years later, I realized I chased someone’s calling. We all have a calling, but the shape differs for everyone. Chase Jarvis, author behind
Creative Calling. Understands that chasing your dream matters. You might think it doesn’t. From experience, I have seen that the way you look at yourself
and the world differs when you chase after your calling. First you need to find your calling. If you want to understand more about your calling, keeping
reading.
You will be happier
In 2015, I graduated from college. It was supposed to be the best day of my life and yet it wasn’t. The next day, I had no clue what I wanted to do. I had no
prospects or job interviews lined up. One day on a sunning afternoon, I was walking to my mother’s office and I stared at the sky.
I asked myself a question I hadn’t asked myself in a while. Was this supposed to be my life? Waiting for the phone to ring for a job interview and hoping that
someone would fix my life. Then I realized I had to fix what was wrong with me. I didn’t want to work for anyone. The thought of doing that made me sick to
my stomach and I was at crossroads.
My family wanted me to find a job, my siblings wanted me to work any job that I could get and I had no clue what I wanted. I was so used to people telling me
what I should do with my life. I was miserable. A few years later, when I started following my dreams I became happier. Chirpier even and that happened
because I found my calling. When you find your calling your life changes for the better and it shapes the way you look at life.
You will become self-disciplined
One thing that I discovered is that when it comes to finding your calling the one thing that works is to discover what area you are disciplined in. When I was
wasn’t following my calling, self-discipline was one of those things I struggled with. I only ever did what I was required to do when it was too late then I found
my calling and everything changed.
I struggled with waking up early before, but it became easier to do that. When I was doing something that made me happy then my outlook changed because
I wanted more than anything to build up my calling. If you are like most people, you are probably skeptical. Can finding your calling change you that much?
I can tell you that it does because I went through it myself. Things that I struggled with before, I started working on them because I had a reason for why I
was doing it. The reason why most people struggle with self-discipline is because they don’t have a strong enough reason for why they are doing it. If you
want to wake up because you want to be ready for work that’s not a strong enough reason to do it. However, if you want to wake up because you want
to start working on your business. That’s a strong enough reason.
The reason why is because you understand that to start working on your business that requires more time. If there’s a big enough reason behind why you
are doing something you will find that self-discipline won’t be as hard as it was.
Also Related: 10 Ways to Master Self-Discipline
Your big reason
When I was a kid had a lot of dreams that never stood the test of time. The older I got, I lost interest in them like most kids do. The truth is most of them had
no big reason behind them. It was easier to give up on them then to continue pursuing things that didn’t fuel me. We all go through this. Growing pains as
you call it.
Many of us have these lavish dreams that we wish we could follow through with. Finding your calling is hard, but what is hard is finding a calling that has a big
reason because often at times your calling could be a fluke. For example, I believed my calling was to become a singer. Then I had to face the harsh reality
that I wasn’t keen to go through all the hurdles that comes with pursuing singing.
I was more attracted to the glitter more than anything else and when that dream disappeared, I had to find another calling. Your calling must have a big
reason, if you can’t come up with at least five reasons why you want to do it then it is a fluke. And if you can then you have found your calling.
The Burden
Finding your calling and going after it will be met with some resistance. Not just from you, but from a lot of people in your life. Heck you will be met with
scrutiny as well. People will think that you think that you are better than everyone else. As strange as it seems, many of us are too terrified to go for our
dreams and we are also terrified if someone goes after their dreams.
It could be that makes us feel small or as if we are not living up to our full potential. The burdens you will face will be plenty. That is why most people don’t
find their callings. Too concerned about forces that they can’t control. You can’t control whether people will support you or the challenges you will face.
Though, you can control what you feel.
That is another thing about finding your calling. You will feel as though you are a fraud, your confidence will slip from your reach and you will start comparing
yourself more than you did before. For some people, it isn’t worth it. But from what I have realized there’s far more benefit from finding your calling then not
doing it.
What you need to realize is that anything worthwhile will take more effort. Think of the relationships that have made you who you are, they are worth it
because you care what happens to them. Once you do put more effort then you can enjoy the benefits of it.
Also Related: 7 Life Skills to Skyrocket Success
What risks are you willing to take to chase after your dreams? Loved to know. Comment below.
Keep Pushing
Vanessa
