5 FALSE BELIEFS ABOUT WORKING ON YOUR DREAMS
They are five false beliefs many of us believe when we’re working on our dreams.
Do you want to start a business? Do you want to write a book? Do you want to follow a creative path? For every yes, there’s a false belief. Society has shaped us to accept these false beliefs to an extent that many of us don’t follow our dreams. We are told that doesn’t work or you are foolish for thinking you will be successful following that path. So what do many of us do, we throw in the towels.
Choosing to give up because it seems like the easiest thing to do. Success is terrifying. What is more terrifying is failing at our dreams? That’s why many of us give in. The thought of failure is too daunting to continue going down that path, so it’s easier. Simpler even to give up. These false beliefs have shaped who we have become. They have stolen more than our dreams, but our ambitions as we choose to not fight for what is rightfully ours.
In this blog post, I will share 5 false beliefs, hoping it will change your perspective and show you the potential that you possess. When you believe in these false beliefs, it is harder to face the reality. That reality is based on what you want to do with your life and where you want to go.
Your don’t have what it takes
How many of us have been told this? When I was a little kid, I loved to sing. Here was the problem. I was terrible at it. I was tone deaf and didn’t have the courage to sing. This should have stopped me, but it didn’t. I auditioned for a singing competition at school and made a fool of myself.
I choked on the song and I remember people doing their best not to laugh. For two years I would sing in private as I practised singing. I started writing lyrics at nineteen years old. Anyone who looked at me said I didn’t have what it took. I wanted to be a singer, and I wanted to see that through. When I was eighteen, I auditioned for a regional singing competition and I failed to make it to the second round. I didn’t give up though. At twenty, I tried it again, and I failed. Then my lucky break came when I was twenty-one and I auditioned. I sang my song this time and went through to the next round.
The day of the competition came, and I sang my heart out. And I came in second place. If the sixteen-year-old me had believed in what they said about me, I wouldn’t have pushed myself. I wouldn’t have come in second place, and I wouldn’t have realized singing wasn’t the right path for me. We base our false beliefs on what people think we are and not who we are.
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It will take forever to achieve your dreams
This depends on you. So, this can be a yes or a no. There are some people who became successful in ten years. There are also people who achieved their dreams in three to five years. This false belief needs to die a painful death. Many people believe that it will take them years to achieve success.
Often, we miss the opportunities right in front of us because we’re caught up with what it’s supposed to look like. My dream was to be a singer. I imagined winning a Grammy or singing on a stage in front of millions of people. I didn’t do that. However, I sang in a room full of two hundred plus people. I achieved my dream on a smaller scale, but I found myself.
You too will find yourself if you go after your dreams. Maybe it won’t be as you imagined, but you might find you have another dream. And if you stick with that dream it will take you places you never imagined because you dared enough to believe in yourself. Believe in your potential, and that is more powerful than you can imagine. Your story hasn’t ended yet, so keep moving forward from now on and you will achieve your dream in no time.
It won’t take forever to achieve your dream as long as you stick with it. With all the technology out there and courses you can purchase, it is a lot easier to achieve your dream in record time than it was years ago.
Success changes you
This false belief is the reason many people never chase their dreams. Believing it will change them for the worse. This is like money is the root of all evil mantra we were told as kids. These are intangible objects, so they can’t change you. Success and money have no power over you. They are results of hard work. It’s like saying that penthouse you have always wanted will turn you into a vain, spiteful and evil human being.
It isn’t as if the penthouse can change who you are. This is an excuse because the reality of success is scarier than we can imagine. It’s easier to say I don’t want to change because of X, Y or Z. I realize that money, success and fame don’t change you, they just highlight who you were. So the evil, manipulative person becomes worse once they become successful. Your greedy co-worker or associate will become worse when they become wealthy.
However, if you were generous before, your success will show. It will bring out who you are. Eliminate this false belief because this is preventing you from going after your dreams and becoming successful.
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You can’t make money from your dreams
In the 90s, this was harder to achieve than now. So, this argument held water back then. But this false belief has no merit now. It is easier to make money from your dreams than years ago. So you don’t have to be a struggling artist with a fridge full of Ramen noodles. You don’t have to sleep on a mattress dreaming about a future that may never come to pass.
No, you don’t have to watch movies about people achieving their dreams and cry yourself to sleep. The internet has brought in a wave of possibilities that have changed the outcomes for the better. YouTube has turned average Joes into the next wave of Influencers, and TIK Tök has done the same.
Poor kids are now millionaires, jet setting and living in two-story houses reserved for the rich. You can make money from your dreams. Let that soak in. Don’t believe in the lies society has told you. You can make money from your manuscripts, from your paintings, from choreography, from your poems, the artwork who hid from the world and your designs. Stop thinking and believing your ideas aren’t a worth a dime. Stop thinking your start-up will never see the light of day. Start believing in the promise of a blemished and imperfect, yet promising tomorrow.
You can’t change your negative thinking patterns
I was a Negative person. Positive thinking patterns weren’t my thing. It took years for me to realize I could change, and I did. My patterns shifted, and I started seeing the possibility of a bright future. We need to stop believing in this false belief. Anyone can change if they want.
As a kid, I used to hear that a leopard can’t change their spots. This is bogus. Okay, a leopard can’t change their spots, but you have the potential to become more. Freud stated that at five kids personalities form. This is partly true. But we can still change. Maybe not the core of who we are, but we can develop to become more. As a kid, I was ambitious. A dreamer. And I still am that person.
But I have systems in place that help me understand my dreams better. I am more than willing to figure myself out, and I have positive thinking patterns. Anyone can change who they are. They are stories of janitors, cleaners and homeless people who became billionaires. Imagine what that person would have had to do to endure to change their belief system. Imagine being homeless and fighting for your dream. How much bravado do you have to possess to achieve that?
If a homeless person can be a billionaire what’s stopping you. No one is stopping you from achieving greatness except you. Start seeing the opportunities laid out before you. This will help you go for your dreams faster. Let the false beliefs slip out of your hands and hold on to something more powerful. The potential to be great. That is something we all should hold on to.
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What false beliefs do you believe that are stopping you from achieving your dreams? Comment below.
Keep Pushing
Vanessa