Why You should find your purpose

Finding your purpose has become a controversial topic, one that people utter in disbelief or is seen as taboo. There are two camps of people; one that follows the narrow and straight path, and the other that chooses to go on a different journey. The latter are seen as mavericks, the weirdos of society unless you are Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfreys, Marie Forleos, Zendayas, Roger Federers, and the list goes on.

Success seems to be reserved for the successful. Stories of the underdog rising to the top and building a millionaire dollar empire while working at home inspire us. They always inspire us because that is what success stories were designed for. Yet, many of us go back to our lives and we forget what we read prior. We forget that nothing remains the same. 

That is why finding your purpose is controversial. There are gurus that say you shouldn’t and in a way they make sense. Finding your purpose and going for it requires patience and determination. The road is a hard one, full of potholes, headaches, and pains that will definitely make you question everything. There are days when you’ll be broke, sleeping on your sister’s couch and people will definitely tell you that you are crazy.

It is a lonely road and that is why most gurus tell you to not go down the hard route but choose something safer. That is because not everyone can handle following their purpose or passion. Most don’t want to go through the hurdles, you have to jump over so you can find your pot of gold or three-leafed clovers. 

Despite the heartache that comes from following your purpose, I still believe you should.

Doing something you love will make you happier

There are a lot of people that believe happiness is a result of success and this can’t be further from the truth. Even if you have a great job with awesome benefits, but still feel aimless then there’s no point. As kids, were made to believe that high-paying jobs will give us the life we want. If that’s the case then why are so many people unhappy. If we look at the greats, despite all their problems, they were happy when they were following their purpose.

They had financial issues, marital problems and many died far too young, but they created an impact doing what they loved. The big difference between then and now is that you don’t have to be a starving entrepreneur or artist to make it.

One of the keys to happiness is doing what you love and not chasing the money trail. Money does not make you happy in spite of what people say. You could have all the money in the world and still feel empty. This has been proven time again, money isn’t the key to happiness, but living a purposeful life is. I wrote a post about how following your passions will make you a whole lot happier, you can check it out here.

Your story will help people

Since I was ten years old, I have believed that everything happens for reason. Maybe, the reason why I believed such a thing at a young age was because of a

Lindsay Lohan movie I watched. I started realizing that life was made of small and big moments that change the course of our lives. These small moments teach us pivotal lessons that prepare us for the bigger moments. It takes time for us to realize that and once it does, it changes the way we look at life. The first real death experience I had was when I was eight years old and I got into an accident.

It changed the way I looked at life. At first, I thought I wasn’t special, but the people around me told me otherwise. They told me I nearly died and for the longest time, I wondered why I didn’t die. I could have simply died and that would have been the end of it. The older I got the more pain I experienced from all areas in my life. I made friends with the wrong people, lost my self-worth a couple of times, became suicidal and I was aimless. I knew what I wanted, but I didn’t think I deserved to go for it.

Despite believing that everything happens for reason, I refused to believe that I had survived this long for a reason. In all honesty, sometimes we believe that there’s nothing special about us. But our stories can change someone’s life in more ways than one. I wish I knew someone who had gone through what I had because that little girl believed she was worthless needed to know they weren’t alone. Often, that is why we need to tell our stories to believe that we were not alone in this journey. We all are special because of the way we can impact people’s lives.

You never know the impact your story can have on people who’re going through what you went through. 

You deserve to try it out

Everyone has dreams, whether it is big or small. The unfortunate thing is most of us never follow them. Too afraid that we’ll fail or we’re not worthy of going for it. I once watched a video of Will Smith and he spoke about how many believe that success is esoteric. At that time I wasn’t sure what he meant, but now I understand. There’s this fear that we are not good enough to be successful or talented enough to achieve anything.

I can point a dozen people who sucked at things at first. Take Tom Cruise for example, one of the first ever movies he did, he couldn’t act. The movie was too painful to watch that I wished it would die a quick death. Granted, very few people remember that movie. Even though Tom Cruise failed, no one remembers that. He became an icon due to hard work and perseverance.

Peter Voogd, a serial entrepreneur lost purpose and was bankrupt before he even started. A few years later he came back with an inspiring story of how he doubled his income in six months. There are hundreds of stories out there of people who weren’t at their best when they started their journeys. And that is the point that we often forget. It isn’t about how many times you fail, but rather about what you do after. If you don’t go after your dreams then you will always wonder what if.

I believe you never know where something will take you unless you give it a chance and that is the same concept here. You need to find your purpose, for your sanity and if you don’t you’ll always live a life of regret.

It is better to fail than to regret never going after something because you were too afraid of what might happen.

What is your main takeaway from this post and what do you believe is your purpose? Write your comment below? Would love to know your thoughts

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